Every month we meet a top-drawer author and put them through their paces. This month it was the turn of Gary Bloom, an elite sports psychotherapist who works extensively with the business community (as well as high profile sportsmen).
These are my takeaways from our one hour session with Gary.
But the real value add was the 40-minute session smaller round table discussion which followed – we were a group of 8. This is where the deep insights get shared which can be directly related to your and my lives.
So, if you are serious about being empathetic (with yourself as well as others) then the book is well worth a read. Or if you are really short of time these nuggets might help:
Establish psychological safety the real kicker is when staff are not comfortable admitting they need help – something is wrong
And even large corporates (who should be getting this right) are often no better than football clubs
Create clear boundaries, end points Rest your body, or your body will rest you
Improve the quality of relationships in your organisation Don’t chop down the tree to harvest the apples
Get buy-in from the top
Happier players play better – in sport and in life Check up on people – ask the hard questions (and mean it)
Have open conversations
How are you? How are you?
We’re experiencing the psychological effects of a world war Young employees may be affected
Isolation is incredibly challenging
Asking for help takes Courage, Bravery and Willingness 1 in 7 approached were open to talking with Gary on his radio show
Jurgen Klopp is an example
We need to show vulnerability ourselves as leaders
It shows strength, not weakness
You need to be brave to have a brave conversation
We need to help people work things out for themselves Giving advice infantilises
Only they have the context and the answers
Mental Health is seen as a swearword (well, 2 actually!) It is not binary
We are not either ill or fit
We are somewhere on the scale
Men don’t cry Yet suicide is the biggest killer of 25-50 year old men
Until we get this sorted things will not change
What we do vs. who we are – we all too often see ourselves as a function of our day job
Burnout damages the brain
Be kinder, gentler, more empathetic
Rule of 3: See your GP if you have felt angry/frustrated/depressed for 3 times in the last week and for the last 3 weeks
Psychotherapists work with: The front end – the here and now
The back end – history, childhood – the why
Mindsets Threat – looking back at the rivals on the running track behind you
Challenger – focusing on the rival ahead of you
Returning from WFH will be a challenge for some staff – do not underestimate it
Find a ‘Supervisor” if you are counselling people not to be judged on what you got wrong
to get another, external perspective – have you thought of…?
Relationships, relationships, relationships Your organisation is only as good as the relationships inside it
It powers success
Italics = Gary’s quotes
Do let me know if you are interested in receiving details of our future Meet the Authors events – these are the ones coming up:
Meet Daniel Susskind with Mark Nicholls’ guests for A WORLD WITHOUT WORK
Tue, Apr13, 2021, 10:00AM
Meet Rebecca Henderson & Mark Nicholls’ guests for REIMAGINING CAPITALISM
Tue, May 4, 2021, 3:00PM
Meet Laurence Alison & Mark Nicholls’ guests for RAPPORT
Tue, June 8, 2021, 10:00AM